Adding on to " How to choose the one?"

Had initially posted this as a comment, but am putting it up here as a post as suggested by author..

Hmmmmm.. and hmmmm again.. that sure was quite an intensive one.. and I must appreciate the analysis that must have gone into its making!! Well, I toatlly agree with the line "I don't know how a person can CHOOSE a girl to love...the whole idea seems opposite to the notion of love.."
Well, I live under this huge assumption ( atleast that is what I have always felt) that "love" gets way too mechanical (for want of a better word) when you go around looking for people who have the tags attached. What I mean to say is, no doubt it helps to have someone who understands you, whom you are comfy with, who is compassionate and has all the goody adjectives but then, literally "looking" for someone who fills in the slot by fulfilling the criteria is more like finding a life partner(whom you may not really love at all), but is that love? Call me impractical and insane but then isn't love all about getting to know a person and love him/her for what she/he is ( maybe the traits match your list) and inturn accept that person as your soulmate and your everything? Or is it just another of those pre-prepared lists of "what-I -look-for" that you carry about on invisible placards and view people as to whether they have them too? Would it be be love or just another quest for a partner? Agreed, that you will like ( love??) your partner but where is all that magic of oving when you have chosen the person based on what you felt makes you happy. I see it more as a self-appeasing drive. I mean, all you are doing is ensuring yourself some joy. Maybe I am making it sound bad, but then, I don't really think very highly of it ..love to me is what a mother shares with her child. Pure, simple with absolutely no prerequisites or constraints at all.Unconditional. A mother doesn't look for any trait. Maybe, you'd say that "that" is a different kind of love. But then, love isn't love when start categorizing it right? Ultimately the feeling is the same. You would do anything for the person you love. If love is what you feel when you meet people possessing most of the charateristics you are looking for, how does it explain failed "love marriages".. I mean, you were supposed to have "loved" the person, right? I don't know whether I have actually made any sense. Coz' I am like filled with words all at once :P We do hear the popular " Be practical.You think this is going to work?" and then you know it isn't exactly a very good question. You hardly think of all this when you fall in love. I agree that you have analysed and listed traits that usually have resulted in love but what I am trying to opine is that people don't necessarily rule out features in love. I mean, you just love a person. Every little thingy that goes in to their making, maybe. At times, you have people of totally opposite nature loving each other and staying content. And at times, you have people of very similar interests staying super happy with each other and still share the same love for each other. Love, I guess can never be defined. So much for all the above banter that made no sense, you'd say. And I still can't help loving these lines..

If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine...
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you.


Love , I guess, is like that..