For those of you who have a passion for teaching or the ones who have a crush on Ryan Reynolds, you might have caught the school-flick ‘School of Life’ about the ‘coming of age’ (so to speak) of a high school teacher. Ryan Reynolds teaches students that its not His-tory but His/Her-story.. Corny as that may sound, the connection between one’s past and present is customized to deliver the maximum level of user experience possible! :D
Consider the elements from history that keep repeating themselves. First off, think of the son who always aspires to be like his father as a kid and as far away from his fathers personality as a grown up. No matter what he does to change his behavior and mould it in a way he desires, sooner or later, the father catches up to the son. Practical application of the “Son becomes the father, father becomes the son” theory!
People keep thinking that the mistakes they make in past relationships won’t keep happening as they ‘evolve’ and get stronger. Somehow, our core beliefs as we faced the first conflicts are not drastically different from our core beliefs as we evolve. Our maturity may have changed, but our conflict resolution is not totally evolved. Our views and priorities may have changed, but our necessities and insecurities only get worse.
The past has a funny way of catching up to you in one form or the other. And like every problem out there, solutions are bound to make inroads in one form or the other as well. There are hypnotism sessions and therapy centers that help individuals deal with the trauma/memories associated with their past. People come up with their own ways of dealing with their past, some much weirder than the rest! Whatever works should be used whenever needed.
Our past is like our shadow, and aptly so. No matter how much we try, we won’t lose it except maybe a few times each day. People won’t sense its relevance on the current situation unless they pay close attention to it. The theories, methods, counseling, hypnotism may all help you ignore or live with your past, but getting rid of its effect is near impossible. Its like a perpetual learning curve that has no fixed equation and thereby, no fixed slope. All we can hope for is that for a majority of the time, the curve shows a positive curve. Learning as much as we can from the past, puts us in a better frame for the present. Or so we may hope.
Till next time, cheers!
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